After the Loss of Your Baby: Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives – Sherokee Ilse and Tim Nelson

This book provides a unique approach to this difficult issue. Sherokee Ilse and Tim Nelson teamed up to offer not only their individual perspectives as a man and woman following the deaths of their children, but also to share how they and their spouses met the challenges many couples face during that stressful time. Addressing one topic at a time, they each share their thoughts and memories and then end the section with some suggestions for couples to consider. They have also incorporated insights from other couples who chose to share their experiences. Finally, in hopes of creating a meaningful dialogue, the book concludes with a mini-workbook where couples are posed questions on a variety of relevant issues.

For Better or Worse – Maribeth Wilder Doerr

For strengthening marriages after a child dies. Looks at gender grief, building your relationship after your child dies, how to help each other heal; includes a grief chat. “While it’s important to respect your spouse’s needs, it’s also wise to respect your own. You must take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. . .”

Goodbye My Child –  Margaret M. Pike

This book covers death of all ages of children, and a range of topics from the question of organ donation and autopsy, to the planning of a funeral. It summarizes the five phases of mourning, and gives an overview of the healing journey. It deals with the grief experienced by grandparents, siblings, and friends. This is a great book for summarizing a lot of information into its most basic form. Nice pencil sketches add warmth.

Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple – Nathalie Himmelrich 

The loss of a child affects the whole family, especially the parents and their relationship. The journey of grief has no set timeline or steps, but unfolds as each person travels in their very own way. 

This book will help you: 
* understand differences in female and male grieving 
* find the best way to support yourself individually and as a couple 
* bring awareness, acceptance and understanding to the grieving process 
* adjust to life post-loss and reemerge as a stronger couple 
* be a support to grieving parents

Healing Together: For Couples Grieving the Death of Their Baby – Marcie Lister & Sandra Lovell

This compact booklet, Healing Together, covers ideas from the memorial service to talking together, information on how men and women grieve differently, and how to strengthen your relationship after the loss of your baby. Each section is concise and to the point–sections include “Saying God-bye Together,” “Remembering Your Baby,” “Your Emotional Pain,” “Getting Ready for Parenthood,” “Mother-to-be,” “Father-to-be,” “Grieving Differently,” “Facing Feelings Together,” “Expressing Feelings,” “Other Children” and “Letting Grief Strengthen Your Relationship.”

Letters to My Unborn Children: Meditations on the Silent Grief of Miscarriage – Shawn T Collins

This book contains author Shawn T. Collins reflections on the silent grief of miscarriage, and encouragement to those who grieve that you are not alone. Miscarriage is a silent grief. It is unexpected before it happens, frequently unexplainable when it occurs, and rarely discussed afterwards. Parents grieve in different ways and at different times from each other. That can complicate and exacerbate their grief. Shawn and Kristine Collins experienced this when three of their pregnancies ended in first trimester miscarriages. Letters to My Unborn Children discusses the tension between cautious excitement and hope for new life with each pregnancy, and the raw grief, vanished dreams and cynicism that accompanied each loss. Recognizing other forms of silent grief helped Shawn and Kristine begin to grieve and heal together. The gentle honesty with which Shawn integrates the miscarriages into his identity invites you into universal experiences of fear, hope, grief, and transformation.

Miscarriage: A Man’s Book – Rick Wheat

Written by a Marriage and Family Therapist who has experienced the difficulties of miscarriage first-hand. The first page is devoted to “an emergency page nine items a man should know right away when his wife has just had a miscarriage, including “recognize the importance of this event. This may well be the worst thing that has ever happened to your wife and maybe to you, too.” He talks about things that will be difficult and discusses the stages of grief and some of the responses that may result such as guilt, depression or withdrawal. He also gives some practical tips on how to keep the marital relationship strong after such a devastating event.

Surviving the Loss of a Child: Support for Grieving Parents– Elizabeth B Brown

Nothing can steal peace and joy and undermine the very foundation of someone’s life like losing a child. It is devastating on a level that most of us can’t imagine. Written after the loss of the author’s own child, Surviving the Loss of a Child offers encouragement and hope to those who may think they will never be able to live fully after such tragedy. Bereaved parents, as well as friends, counselors, pastors, and caregivers, will find this book a source of comfort and discover coping mechanisms as they move through their grief. Revised and updated, it has short chapters that are easy to take in, perfect for people going through this difficult time.

Too Soon a Memory: A Guide for parents suffering a miscarriage – Pat Schwiebert

this sensitive booklet gives practical information for a couple facing grief following a miscarriage. This booklet will validate those who will be deeply affected by the loss, as well as those who will move quickly through their grief. Helpful medical information and grieving tips are included.